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Unequally Yoked: A Spiritual Crisis

Author: Russ Wise
Date: 11/16/2010 12:38:12 PM

The following exchange between Cindy and me represents the heartache that many Christians experience when they find themselves unequally yoked in marriage (2 Corinthians 6:14). I have made every attempt to delete all indicators as to where Cindy resides or her true identity.

From: Cindy
Sent: Friday, October 08, 2010 1:15 PM
Subject: Christian Wicca

Dear Russ Wise,

I hope you don’t mind my email, I am sure you get tons.  I was touched by your “Answering a confused Teen about Wicca”.  I grew up in a very Christian home and have always considered myself a fairly traditional Presbyterian Christian with a decent working knowledge of the Bible and basic apologetics, and yes a personal relationship with Jesus. 

Then my husband converted to Wicca.  He is now a very influential third degree priest.  I adore my husband, and support his right to make his own spiritual choices, but I find it confusing for me sometimes.  It seems to me he does good things, he guides people who might not otherwise be involved in a community, he’s very strict about that “harm none” part- its harder than most think, and the magick is very real.  Sometimes I feel he is more spiritual than me, and I think I have learned good things from him. 

How does something that has its source in evil do good things?  If the gods they worship are false idols where does the power come from?  It would be so tempting for me to get involved myself.  Maybe its because I have been a lifelong Christian and never had a huge conversion experience, why does being a Christian seem so empty right now?  Am I like the prodigal son’s brother, who never left and feels bitter?  Sometimes I feel that if salvation is based on how much knowledge we have and how much we understand theology then we are all lost, there are teachers who know so much more than me and still can’t agree.  How do I really know who’s interpretation is correct? 

I don’t have many Christian friends, and while I love my pastor, it’s a small church.  I did have someone pray over me (a pentacostal friend), but I didn’t feel all that different afterwards.  Being a good Calvinist, I believe that Christ will see me through, but sometimes I feel so lost.  I guess I’m kinda wondering what books your sister read that changed her mind.




From: Russ Wise []
Sent: Thursday, October 28, 2010 12:55 AM
To: Cindy
Subject: RE: Christian Wicca

Dear Cindy,

Thank you for your inquiry. I have offered you my response in the attachments provided. I trust you will find my thoughts helpful to you in your search for God’s Truth.



For your convenience I have copied your comments here for your reference. I have bolded those comments that I have offered a comment:

I was touched by your “Answering a confused Teen about Wicca”.  I grew up in a very Christian home and have always considered myself a fairly traditional Presbyterian Christian with a decent working knowledge of the Bible and basic apologetics, and yes a personal relationship with Jesus.  Then my husband converted to Wicca.  He is now a very influential third degree priest.  I adore my husband, and support his right to make his own spiritual choices, but I find it confusing for me sometimes. 

It seems to me he does good things, he guides people who might not otherwise be involved in a community, he’s very strict about that “harm none” part- its harder than most think, and the magick is very real.  Sometimes I feel he is more spiritual than me, and I think I have learned good things from him.  How does something that has its source in evil do good things?  If the gods they worship are false idols where does the power come from?  It would be so tempting for me to get involved myself.  Maybe its because I have been a lifelong Christian and never had a huge conversion experience, why does being a Christian seem so empty right now? 

Am I like the prodigal son’s brother, who never left and feels bitter?  Sometimes I feel that if salvation is based on how much knowledge we have and how much we understand theology then we are all lost, there are teachers who know so much more than me and still can’t agree.  How do I really know who’s interpretation is correct?  I don’t have many Christian friends, and while I love my pastor, its a small church.  I did have someone pray over me (a Pentecostal friend), but I didn’t feel all that different afterwards. 


Dear Cindy,

Thank you for your kind remarks regarding my article. I appreciate your comment! In response to your story concerning your background and your husband’s spiritual/faith choice I will have to make an assumption or two since I do not fully know your situation or your full history.

I hesitate in doing so, but if I am to answer your concerns I will need to make some potentially erroneous suppositions.  First, I would like to let you know that I have been praying for you for awhile now – ever since I received your inquiry. My prayer is not only for you and your situation, but for me and my response to you. My desire is to be honest with you and answer you in a way that our Lord would be honored and glorified. I would have liked to have responded to you sooner, but I have been engaged in preparing for several speaking assignments and my time has been caught up in those preparations.

Secondly, I would like you to know that, in my view, it is not uncommon for those outside Wicca – whether Christian or not – to be enamored with the power those involved in witchcraft or the occult may exhibit. They do have power although it is limited in scope according to the degree of power the entity working with/through them allows. This power is manifested in the participant as a way to seduce the individual and cause him/her to believe they are special and a member of the spiritually elite. Power is a hook that ensnares the individual and draws them further into the realm(s) of spiritual debauchery. Deuteronomy 18:10-12 offers the Christian and others God’s view of the issue.

God makes it quite clear that such involvement is outside His will for our lives. The passage reads, There shall not be found among you any one who . . . practices divination, a soothsayer (an astrologer), or an augur, or a sorcerer, or a charmer, or a medium, or a wizard, or a necromancer. For whosoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord. Witchcraft encompasses all of these activities and God calls them detestable.

Can I assume your husband professed to be a Christian when you married him? Or was he already involved the witchcraft? Another assumption, if he professed a faith in Jesus Christ to what extent did he live his faith or was it purely a superficial relationship if, in fact, he had a relationship at all?

My past experience tells me that he likely had a shallow understanding and practice of his faith as a Christian. I was taken by surprise that you used the term, apologetics in your correspondence. Your doing so makes me think that you have some basic understanding of your faith and how genuine it is, as well as, how to offer a defense of it to others.

Isaiah 64:6 tells us that man’s righteous works are as filthy rags before a holy God. In other words, it is not our good works or our personal holiness that pleases God – it is our obedience to His Law and the depth of our relationship with Him that causes us to be acceptable to Him. I am sure your husband is a wonderful man and that he exemplifies a degree of personal righteousness, but his doing so does not make him right in God’s eyes.

Even those who commit the most horrendous crimes love those who are the closest to them. They love their children! The men involved in the Mafia crime family committed egregious crimes against their fellow man, but they were harmless doves around their families. I could offer you numerous examples, but I believe you see my point. The issue is not whether a man is loving and charming – the issue is whom does he serve. The real issue for mankind is – who do we serve/worship – ourselves or our Creator/Savior?

In the final analysis, we do not have a proper understanding of God and His majesty and as a result we do not fear Him. We live as if He is of no real consequence in our lives and we basically ignore the one who redeemed us at Calvary. By fearing God I do not mean we fear Him because He might strike us dead – although He has certainly struck others dead in history. What I mean is that we reverence Him, we are awestruck, we respect Him because of His holiness and because He is our Creator. We fear Him and desire to serve Him because of His love for us and the fact that He gave Himself on our behalf to eradicate our sin.

The idea that we may be considered righteous because we treat others with dignity and “harm none” is misplaced praise. I can introduce you to atheists who practice the same rule or law, but I would not consider them to be godly or righteous nor would they want to be thought of in such a way. Harming none is akin to living by the Golden Rule. It is a gracious way to live, but it is not godly holiness.

You are correct in observing that magick works! However, the real issue is not whether it works or not, but in whom do we have allegiance? Satan does indeed have power and he shares it with whomever he wills. Once again, the issue is not the ability to exercise power in a given situation, but where the power originates. What is its source? Is it an act that brings glory to our Heavenly Father or is it an act that credits another.

I am purposefully using Satan and his relationship to power in my comment because magick as you have used it relates to him rather than the use of slight-of-hand. Magick can be used for good or evil. The issue is not whether it is used for good and therefore it is said to be worthy and if it is used for evil it is damning. Once again, the real issue is who is behind its use and who receives the glory in the end?

You shared your concern that you are somewhat concerned that your husband exhibits more spirituality than you do – this may very well be the case. It seems that he practices his faith more religiously than you do. Our faith and how we practice it is not so much the issue and how religious we are is not a measure for our relationship with or our acceptance by God. Our being religious is in many ways the problem. We are justified in Christ not by our religiosity, but by our desire to know Him and deepen our relationship with Him. Our faith is deepened and we reach new heights of understanding as we expose ourselves to God’s Word and rightly apply it in our lives. Religiosity is, in reality, a stumbling block to our gaining God’s approval.

Second Corinthians 11:14 tells us that Satan appears as an Angel of Light. Matthew 24:24 offers us this truth, False Christ’s will arise and show great signs and wonders, so as to lead astray, if possible, even the elect. And 2 Thessalonians 2: 9 tells us, The coming of the lawless one by the activity of Satan will be with all power, and with pretended signs and wonders, and with all wicked deception for those who are to perish, because they refused to love the truth and so be saved.

There is a lot here to unpack and understand. First, Satan has the capacity to appear as an Angel of Light. His doing so is for the express purpose to deceive us and cause spiritual confusion in our lives so he may ultimately destroy us (John 10:10). Matthew tells us that Satan empowers our enemy with miraculous signs and wonders for the specific purpose of deceiving those who will not love the truth. The scriptures tell us the Holy Spirit is the Spirit of Truth (John 16:13). The Spirit of Truth will guide us into all Truth. The Holy Spirit becomes our guide and leads us into God’s Truth, the Spirit speaks to honor the One who sent Him – the Father (John 7:18).

The Holy Spirit is our guide in all things and the Spirit is Truth. An individual may be another’s guide, but his/her guidance is limited in that man is a finite being without the capability to meet the deep needs of another. Only God by His Spirit of Truth can lead and guide us into Truth and thus bring us to salvation – less we perish.

Satan has the power to work signs and wonders and many will believe him (as an Angel of Light) to be the “one” who will deliver mankind.

The Apostle Paul prior to his conversion was blinded for three days and was confronted by God to account for his persecution of Himself and His people. It was his Damascus Road experience. Many believers wish they had such a definitive experience to recall their conversion – I can relate to your situation. My experience was one where I simply made a choice – a decision – to become a Christ follower and I soon began to see my life change for the better. I didn’t experience God speaking to me and calling me to do great things for Him and His Kingdom. However, I did receive confirmation in my spirit that I was a changed person and I began a process in my spirit where I changed over time – psychologically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

There are times when I feel empty and spiritually dry. Note that I italicized “feel”. Our feelings often get us into trouble. We tend to forget the facts surrounding our conversion so we rely on our feelings to pull us through. The problem is that our feelings are deceptive and often cause us to misread our situation – spiritually and positionally. By that I mean we have a tendency to forget our position in Christ. We allow our feelings to dictate our mood and our mental health; we lose sight of objective truth – the truth of our salvation and our rightful place in God’s Kingdom.

Our rightful position in Christ affords us these blessings:

  1. We are beyond condemnation (Romans 8:1)

  2. We are delivered from the law of sin (Romans 7:6)

  3. We are near to God (Ephesians 2:13)

  4. We are delivered from the power of evil (Colossians 1:13)

  5. We are a member of His Kingdom (Colossians 1:13)

  6. We are justified (Romans 5:1)

  7. We are perfect (Hebrews 10:14)

  8. We have been adopted (Romans 8:15)

  9. We have access to God at any moment (Ephesians 2:18)

  10. We are part of His priesthood (1 Peter 2:5)

  11. We will never be abandoned (Hebrews 13:5)

  12. We have an inheritance (1 Peter 1:4)

  13. We are a member of His body (1 Corinthians 12:13)

  14. We possess every spiritual blessing possible (Ephesians 1:3)

I cannot offer you a reason why you may be feeling so “empty” right now, but I can offer you the Truth of God’s Word as a resource for you to think more scripturally about yourself. Satan’s desire for you is that you will believe his lies and think of yourself as a defeated Christian – one who is not worthy of God’s grace and His redemption. His goal is to render you defenseless.

As Christians our greatest defense is to wield our offensive weaponry against the enemy. Our greatest weapon – offensively – is our praise and prayer life. Prayer is vital for our deliverance form the evil one. It must be consistent, intense, and strategic. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 exhorts us to pray without ceasing – to pray constantly. We are to remain in a constant, consistent, state of prayer. Prayer can be a strong tower for those in spiritual upheaval (Luke 22:31-32).

Our prayer is to be intense. We must remain vigilant (1 Peter 5:8). Guarding our heart is another aspect of remaining pure and realizing God’s grace flowing through us (Proverbs 4:23). Luke 18:1-8 gives us an illustration regarding our need to persevere in prayer – to not give up. To increase our intensity, to not loose heart!

Strategy is a must when one faces the enemy. Our prayers need to employ sound strategy if we are to overcome the evil one. Strategic prayer is to faithfully align oneself under His authority to speak and to do His will. Strategic prayer is essential prayer that is necessary to conduct war, accomplish an objective, and destroy the enemy and his devices.

Another key element to obtain our victory over the enemy is praise. The scriptures tell us that God inhabits the praise of His people (Psalm 22:3). We cannot get any closer to God than when we praise Him! In other words, God “dwells” in the atmosphere of His praise. When genuine authentic praise is offered to God, Satan’s oppressive wiles are rendered ineffective. Praise is an expression of faith, and a declaration of victory! It declares that we believe God is with us and is in control of the outcome of all our circumstances (Romans 8:28). When we praise God and His glorious attributes the enemy flees. Praise is the ultimate act of resistance (James 4:7).

God has given us His Word to perfect us and provide us with a guide to live abundantly. He has also provided us with the ability to seek Him in prayer so we might remain in relationship with Him. Our boldness is founded in Christ Jesus; it is not of ourselves, but in Him alone. We must speak God’s Truth and pray for our release with confidence in the One who came to deliver us from the bonds of oppression (Acts 10:38).

Our victory comes from God and His work in our lives through His Spirit. We must walk in total obedience to His will and fortify our lives by putting on the armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-20).  

Satan does not have authority over the believer in Christ when we live in obedience to our God. He is limited! 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 encourages us in the fight, For though we live in the world we are not carrying on a worldly war, for the weapons of our warfare are not worldly but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every proud obstacle to the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ . . .

Our salvation is not won or lost relative to the amount of theological understanding we may have. Nor is our salvation determined by our knowledge of scripture or how well we form our theology. Our salvation is only found in our acceptance of Jesus Christ alone. It is not of our works or anything we might accomplish. It is only through Him and our receiving His sacrificial gift for our redemption/salvation (Romans 10:9).

I can sympathize with your concern about the teachings of various scholars and their interpretations of scripture or their theological positions. I tend to keep an open mind where scholars have differing views of things that are cultural or where one’s practice is predicated on personal preference. However, where scripture is concerned I am more interested in doctrinal (doctrine = teaching) purity and biblical orthodoxy concerning what is taught. There are so many questions that one may need an answer. The good news is that there are good legitimate answers to every question we have. It is a matter of digging out the gems (the Truth) rather than allowing the enemy to defeat us by sending us into a spiritual crisis and stealing our joy and confidence in God’s Word. The enemy desires to rob us of our relationship with Christ an leave us unprotected in the wilderness of unbelief. I pray that I have given you an adequate defense for yourself above and that your spirit will find renewal as you consider my thoughts concerning your request.

May our Lord Jesus Christ sustain you and keep you until the day of His coming!

May God bless your continued quest to better know and serve Him!


I have attached a piece I wrote regarding The Road to Salvation for your use in better understanding God’s view concerning our situation spiritually. I trust you will find it helpful!


From: Cindy
Sent: Thursday, October 28, 2010 9:43 AM
To: Russ Wise
Subject: RE: Christian Wicca

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your personalized response to my email.  You have offered me so much more to think about than the clichéd responses I usually get when I ask hard questions, and it is a timely response so close to Samhain.  Yes I did have a solid Christian education that included scholars like Dr. James Boice, and yes my husband was a fairly uneducated though earnestly seeking answers Christian when I met him. 

I was attracted to the fact that he did ask hard questions that those of us who have grown up with it take for granted.  It just went a different direction in the end.  He made me rethink what I believe and still does challenge me in a way that I think being married to the usual “go to church on Sunday and go back to regular life during the week” person would.  I would love to be able to talk more with you about this, I have very few people who I can truly talk to about these issues, though I don’t have the time to write and think right now.



From: Russ Wise []
Sent: Thu 10/28/2010 11:06 AM
To: Cindy
Subject: RE: Christian Wicca

Dear Cindy, 

I am pleased that you are a questioner/doubter. I know you are likely shocked to hear such a response! In my view, one only has the capacity to discover God’s Truth when we question things and dig deeper for a satisfying answer. Otherwise we leave ourselves open to the enemy to confuse us and cause us to ultimately disregard God and the Truth of His Word.

                It seems that your husband did not dig deep enough. I suspect along the way toward discovery he was heavily influenced by someone who operated in the occult realm and he allowed them to persuade him to their way of thinking. When someone is standing before you pointing in a given (spiritual) direction it is easier to follow their argument rather than sit with your study (2 Timothy 2:15) material and mine it for the gems it may provide. Biblical resources and other Christian study tools do not hold us accountable, nor do they call us and attempt to seduce us to follow their instruction. They simply wait for us to pick them up to study and broaden our perspective of God’s Truth. The responsibility is squarely on us! God will ultimately ask us of our resolve in showing ourselves approved by studying His Word, not the resources laying on our desk.

                I understand that your time is limited! I am willing to correspond with you in more detail as your time allows. May our Lord Jesus Christ bless your day and strengthen you mentally, physically, and spiritually.  


Have you seen my article on Halloween?

From: Cindy
Sent: Thursday, October 28, 2010 10:11 PM
To: Russ Wise
Subject: RE: Christian Wicca

Well I thought and thought today while I was at work about what I might want to share with you.  I guess the long and short of it is I appreciate your prayer for my complicated situation.  I haven't read all your articles, I just stumbled across that one that day.  I see a comment about you being the "resident cult specialist" and that does peak my interest.  More important than how he got into witchcraft is who he is in it now.  It might make more sense to point out that my husband is no mere dabbler or, as he likes to call them, "one book wonder witches".  He was initiated to the third degree by Ray Buckland himself.  Its one thing to know all the right answers theologically (I did just read your Halloween article- nothing new there), and another to go have dinner with "the father of American witchcraft" and find him a sweet little old man. I am surrounded by these people and they are my friends and I love them.  They know I am Christian and respect it. 

Still, as I struggle to balance an interfaith marriage, there is that fear that my best friend is my worst enemy.  I really don't go to that church all that often anymore.  I probably am doing a lot of things you would disagree with.  Just as early Christianity borrowed a lot from Greek philosophy, is it so wrong to appreciate certain ideas of Wicca?  Mostly anymore I just observe and try not to loose my own salvation, I have probably made too many compromises for the sake of family unity.  A little bio on me, my grandfather was Dr. Rev. Richard M., he was very careful in teaching me to debate. I went to Christian elementary and high school, grew up in an offshoot of Dr. Boice's Tenth Presbyterian in Philadelphia, went to a Christian college, volunteered at Billy Graham Crusades, went on 3 missions trips, I was the good little Christian girl who knew all the right answers and did everything I was supposed to. 

Not that it wasn't genuine, but when real life hit, and as a person over 21 stepped out for the first time and willfully did something that "good little Christian girls just don't do" I fell apart, gave a psychiatrist a good laugh at my expense and ended up on antidepressants. 

So while part of me still likes to think that I am a good Christian, I know that but for the grace of God I am doomed just like everyone else, so I don't judge.  So that’s a bit of a ramble I guess, thank you again for trying to be understanding and for your prayers.



From: Russ Wise []
Sent: Friday, October 29, 2010 12:08 AM
To: Cindy
Subject: RE: Christian Wicca

Dear Cindy,

I’m glad to hear that you no longer consider yourself a “good” little Christian girl. I’m not sure they exist! It sounds to me as if you are at a place where God has gotten your attention concerning your past mistakes and where He can truly speak to you. I am sure you are familiar with 1 John 1:9. I believe with certainty that our gracious Lord included this verse in scripture because He knew how much we would need to reset out lives and regain our rightful relationship with Him. Trust me I have needed to claim its Truth on many occasions.

Perhaps you are at a place in your spiritual life where you would benefit from its Truth as well! Once we have confessed our sin God immediately forgives us of our sin and cleanses us from ALL unrighteousness. It is a promise that we can appropriate for ourselves and begin a new day with joy in our heart and praise on our lips. The past is gone – caput – and we are indeed a new creature in God’s sight. We are forgiven and our past no longer controls us or defines our destiny.

I have Buckland’s books in my library and I have read most all he has written otherwise. Your husband didn’t take any shortcuts to achieve his stature in Witchcraft. I have no doubt Buckland is a gracious and sincere man, the issue is not his character or his sincerity, but who he has aligned himself with in the spiritual realm. I wasn’t using the mafia analogy related to criminality, but to point out that even men who are known to be outside God’s will have a good side and can be very caring. Although in a limited way! The point is that they remain in sin and are destined for eternal separation from a holy God who loves them.

I will take a look at your husband’s site and see what he is up to when I have opportunity. I’m sure it will be an enlightening experience!

I want you to know that I will continue to pray for you and your relationship with your husband and your friends. My real concern is that you do not seem to be involved in a good nurturing church where you can experience good positive Christian fellowship and spiritual support. I would strongly encourage you to seek one out – even if it may be Baptist. I understand your concerns regarding some churches, whether they are Baptist or some other denomination, they can be ignorant about occultism and be very shallow in their understanding toward someone in your circumstance.

The Apostle Paul disappointed God, Peter had his shortcomings and even denied the Savior, but God restored them to Himself – just as He is waiting to restore you and wipe your past from His memory and begin a new work of grace in your life. The question here is whether you are ready and willing to allow the process to begin by confessing your sin so He can restore you and fill you with His Spirit. It is only through God’s Spirit that you will be able to live joyously and be the witness God desires you to be to your husband and his friends. Your situation calls for you to be strong in Spirit and to be constant in prayer so you will be able to see God at work in your life. Have you come to the place in your life where you are desperate for His guidance and help in reaching your husband and others with God’s Truth? So they can be set free from the spiritual bondage they are living in and under. God may be waiting for you to become who you need to be for Him to reach your husband and his friends with the Gospel. I am praying that you are at that point!!

I remain faithfully yours in Christ,


From: Cindy
Sent: Monday, November 01, 2010 8:42 AM
To: Russ Wise
Subject: RE: Christian Wicca

I am glad you know who Ray is.  Most people don’t have more than a clue what I am talking about.  I haven’t actually read his books, though we have autographed copies around the house, to me he’s just a family friend.  Don’t know if I would find them temping or frightening.  I do think that maybe God put me in this position for a reason; I just get tired of feeling like I am trying to stand alone and could use an ally.  I did talk to my pastor yesterday; he invited me to a different Sunday school which might be a little more suited to me.  He’s a great pastor, it’s just a small church in a small town and I don’t have anyone I can really talk to.  Thank you again for your encouragement.


From: Cindy
Sent: Monday, November 08, 2010 8:31 AM
To: Russ Wise


How was your weekend?  Hope you don’t mind me continuing to write, thought I was feeling better but now I am conflicted again.  Had a talk with my husband, he was not real happy about me writing to you.  Not in an angry way, one he was just being a husband and wondering who this was I found on line to chat with, but also sad that I was having a spiritual struggle that he couldn’t help me with.  I know why they forbid interfaith marriages; it’s not easy at all. 

What’s tempting for me is not so much the religion itself, I really have no interest in their version of deity, its that we both long for the spiritual connection with each other that we may never be able to have.  The human pride of a wife fills me when I am watching him speak or lead or council someone.  Rituals like Beltain also sometimes have a certain sexual undertone, and I feel the pull of the energies that are there.  It’s enough to make me want to be a part of what’s going on just to be there with him. 

It makes me think of the ancient Christians who were put to death for refusing to burn incense to the emperor.  I don’t think I would make a very good martyr.  Why would God ask a person to destroy their own family for him?  And yes I know he put his own son to death, but as a wife and a mother I just don’t think I could do it.  And I think that’s part of why he left the Christian faith; he doesn’t really care for the violence of the Old Testament. 


From: Russ Wise []
Sent: Tuesday, November 09, 2010 12:49 PM
To: Cindy
Subject: RE:

Dear Cindy,

I had a good weekend. I consider it a delight to respond to you and help you work through your conflicted thoughts. I am pleased to know your husband has some concern over your corresponding with me or anyone on the web. It can and often is a problem. Anonymity can be a positive on occasion – especially on the web! However, being so is less than ideal when it comes to actually receiving the kind of help I believe you need. In my view, you are in need of someone near you who can help you pray through things and personally hold you accountable where your spiritual life is concerned. In short, you are in need of a mentor –an older woman who will guide you through various teaching and aspects of the Christian walk. This is something I am unable to help you with, you are largely on your own to discover someone who would guide you in such a manner. If I may, I would suggest you visit with your pastor and ask him to consider introducing you to someone in the congregation who could serve in such a capacity. I will be able to only do so much to help you; you need a mature Christian woman to offer you the spiritual leadership you desire.

Your husband will not able to help you in spiritual matters, nor should you desire for him to do so. His spirit is at odds with the Holy Spirit residing in you. There is no compatibility between the two. I understand the probability that your husband may have a positive affect on those whom he counsels; the same could be said of a secular counselor or therapist. The underlying issue is this: which spirit is he tapping into to bring about the desired result? The desired result being, becoming more faithful in following Christ and allowing His Word to transform me into the individual He desires for me to become. Your husband cannot bring about such a result because he is out of relationship with the One True God of scripture. Wiccan ritual is largely centered on fertility and thus a sexual overtone is present. Depending on the emphasis regarding the goddess sexuality in the ceremonies is more prevalent – as I’m sure you are aware. The fleshly connection to ritual is strong within the Wiccan/Pagan community and one that a husband and wife would enjoy within fleshly context. However, such ritual is NOT biblical nor is it a Christian practice. It is simply the flesh seeking an opportunity to gain parity with the spirit. The spirit of witchcraft or Paganism is at odds with the Spirit of Christ – the Holy Spirit. I’m speaking to you in fundamental terms, but you must understand this Truth for your spiritual life depends on your applying its Truth in you r circumstances.

I suspect your husband is somewhat sensitive emotionally and spiritually. I understand that he felt/feels that the violence in the Old Testament is without merit and that God could have surely used a different methodology to achieve His purposes is a common concern of those who embrace alternate spirituality. There are good reasons for God’s acting in such a way. However, it takes study and a bit of work to discover the reasons God would bring such judgment (violence) upon certain individuals and groups. Sadly, it appears that he was/is unwilling to do the work of studying and showing himself an approved laborer in the faith. He is more comfortable with letting his emotions and others shape his thoughts about history. The Wiccan community has their own interpretation of history concerning the goddess and the nature of deity – the Judeo-Christian God as well. The God of the Bible doesn’t fair too well in their understanding.

You remain in my prayers – specifically for spiritual strength and understanding. My prayer is also for you to find someone to walk with you through this confusing time in your life. May our Lord Jesus Christ bless you in all your ways as you seek Him throughout your life!





Author's Comments:
This email exchange provides an insight where a Christian finds themself in a relationship where both individuals are not commited to Christ. Please consider my request to pray for Ciindy and her rrelationship with her husband. May our Lord be Glorified in their lives as He makes Himself known to each one in His time.

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